Anonymous asked: I dont thriwe on my illness. Im on 3 different medications in order to function and even then im unable to study or work. But i do think my bipolar makes me more interesting and is an inherent part of my personality and thats the way i cope with it. Ill never not be sick, but atleast i have ups to. Atleast im dramatic and interesting and i hate the idea that i should spend my life hating a part of me i will never get rid of. More stories about how awful we have it is not what we need, imo.
that’s a really unfair standard to apply universally, and honestly- and I mean this encouragingly- whatever makes you interesting is almost undoubtedly more than your illness.
Anonymous asked: I never claimed to know it better. I experience psychotic mania and it can be scary but also exhilirating and thrilling and many bipolar people would feel lost without it. I personally do take drugs cause the up is not worth it, but other people dont and comparing it to depression and anxiety makes no sense. And im sorry, but why do want a cure story for your disorder that will never be cured?? That just gives us false hope and thats not good
False hope for some people.
Some people would be better without it. Not all. Some.
Sometimes, false hope is better than no hope at all. I’d rather engage in a narrative that says “someday, you won’t have to deal with this” and keep hoping until the day I die than think of myself as unfixable. Because I do experience this negatively, and I’m not the only one who does.
It’s really great that you’re able to thrive on your illness! I’m glad that you’re making it work for you. But I really dislike the way you’re taking this.
Anonymous asked: jfc anon don't condescend to other people living with mental illness. the idea that bipolar is the disease of artists/balances out the bad parts/is always neutral and never bad has been around for a loooong time and it's fine if you find that a useful way to look at your disorder (you'd better actually have it the way you were talking) that's cool, but other people are allowed to find it harmful.
like, honestly? I’d love to be able to thrive on my illness and channel it positively but I don’t have that ability. I’d also love to be able to medicate, for that matter, but I’ve yet to find any medication that didn’t exacerbate some of my personal physical problems or interfere with my ability to work. In an ideal world, I wouldn’t have to shortchange my mental health in exchange for being considered fully functional, but we don’t live in one of those and I am doing the best I can with what I’ve got.
Anonymous asked: Hi, i get your point but eant to point out that bipolar are quite different than the other illnesses you mention. For one it is one of few mental illnesses considered entirely incurable and lifelong due to being a phyical fault in the brain and the other part is that it contains mania, which many of us choose to stop drugs to experience cause it feels great. So, its both incurable and have good sides and therefore should not be compared to depressive and anxious disorders imo.
I HAVE A BIPOLAR SPECTRUM DISORDER.
I HAVE EXPERIENCED MANIA AND IT SCARED THE SHIT OUT OF ME.
Even my comparatively pleasant and more lucid hypomanic periods make me kind of anxious because I know a downswing is coming next.
I don’t speak for everyone but neither do you. You don’t know it “better” than I do just because you experience it positively.
basically a lot of mood disorder/MI cure plot things are really important to me as someone who has those
I don’t expect it to be universal but please don’t automatically consign all cure talk about allistic neuroatypicality to the same hate speech category as autism elimination because it’s not the same thing and the comparison is harmful on both sides
Anonymous asked: yeah dude so i wrote up a really angry reply to your thing but tumblr ate it but im thinking maybe you didnt mean to say what it sounds like youre saying, because it sounds like you think cure plots for mental illnesses and stuff are helpful (wtf dude, "useful escapeism"??) like i agree autism cure plots are super disgusting but i have both things and mental illness like depression, anxiety, etc cureplots are awful too dude
okay look I don’t speak for everyone and I don’t claim to
but as someone with mental illness myself, I will try to respect your POV here but I expect the same courtesy
and FOR ME, and undoubtedly not *only* for me, I would like to read more stories where people with illnesses like mine are able to get over them, because most media presents them as even more permanent and impactful and awful than they are irl
i just want more fucking stories where disabled characters survive the whole time and also don’t get fucking cured
so that a disabled kid can read a book and see themselves coming out of it alive and as they are because that is fucking important
except being cured of debilitating disorders is a good thing you fucking devil
- there are many illnesses that can’t be cured, when ill folks get represented only for their fictional counterparts to be magically cured it leaves them feeling like they’ve done something wrong and with no one to identify with
- many disordered people do not want to be cured, myself included
- they are fictional characters, they’re not actually hurt oh my fucking god
- cure plotlines are disgusting and so are you
it depends on what’s being cured
plotline about curing autism: awful
plotline about curing depression/bipolar spectrum disorders/OCD/anxiety/shit that actually hurts and is debilitating regardless of accommodation and understanding rather than just the brain being wired differently: useful escapism/something to actively hope for
you don’t speak for everyone and autism works very differently from actual mental diseases or stuff that makes your body hurt ALL THE DAMN TIME
yeah but 1) most of the time these plot lines are made by able people with no regard as to how the disabilities and illnesses work and 2) I have an anxiety disorder plus ocd plus depression and you don’t speak for everyone either. I would love a story in which I see myself in media without a “cure” plot.
also the “doge” reblogger openly supports eugenics just letting you know
I don’t claim to speak for everyone, I’m just asking that others give the same courtesy, and I’m allowed to seek some gray area here while still thinking logicaldoge’s a piece of shit.
Tbph I also can’t think of an actual cure plot for anxiety and depression and OCD anyway (all of which I have too) and I’m (personally- I’m not everybody, I know) sick of the idea that I need to just be happy with what I have and that accommodation/love is good enough.
(Though as a recommendation- mental illness is actually the one representation thing comics are pretty good for among heroes, so I’d recommend looking into those! it’s far from perfect as a medium, and most of the mentally ill people you encounter are straight white dudes, but there’s a lot of uncured depression and anxiety there… which is probably actually a huge part of why I’m so like “man, I’d love to see someone get some help with this in a story and genuinely get better”, because man, you can only see a character’s depression or PTSD used to remind you of how much they’ve been through and how deep they are before you’re like “no, it’s not like that, GET SOME FUCKING THERAPY, BATMAN, IT WOULD ACTUALLY HELP.”)
Short Guide to Non-ableist Language
tw: abusive language
Pulled from "Autistic Hoya"
Instead of an ableist word, perhaps you actually meant to say…
(more invective replacements that use profanity/swears are included at the very bottom in a separate list)
Devoid of _____
Lacking in _____
Without any _____ whatsoever
For describing people with disabilities/disabled people in general:
Has a disability
With a disability
With a chronic health condition
Has a chronic health condition
For describing people on the autism spectrum:
On the autism spectrum
With autism [if preferred by individual]
Aspie [if preferred by individual]
For describing people with intellectual disabilities:
With an intellectual disability
Has an intellectual disability
With a cognitive disability
Has a cognitive disability
For describing people with sensory disabilities or impairments:
Hard of hearing
For describing people with physical or mobility disabilities:
With a physical disability
With a mobility disability
Uses a wheelchair
In a wheelchair
Uses a cane
Uses a walker
Has [specific condition here]
Trigger Warning: Possible Replacement Insults Using Swears/Profanity (directly below)
yet another ~replacement list~ full of words that could trigger the shit out of many abuse survivors, oh joy
useless, shameful, disgusting, pathetic and coward in particular are really loaded when used as just casual throwaround insults
stop making these lists
paprikashaker asked: Ok but some anxiety/depression/OCD and even some chronic pain issues can't be cured. All of my disabilities have no cure because for the most part they aren't even sure what causes it. It's pretty unrealistic still for stories with magical cures for things. Sure we can hope but I'd rather see some more stories representing things realistically. Unless I completely misinterpreted your post????
I know it can’t be cured- I have some of that stuff too- but I think there’s a very distinct difference between a cure plotline for something like that and one with autism. An autism cure plotline really carries an element of “these people shouldn’t exist”; talking about curing a mood disorder is focused on the disease (which unlike autism actually does tend to tear up your life/ability to express a personality). Even if it can’t exist, it doesn’t carry the same weight and isn’t inherently hateful and ableist.
no seriously don’t you dare talk about mood disorders and autism as though they’re the same thing and wanting to cure the former is the same as wanting to “cure” the latter